Chronic back pain can interfere with almost every aspect of your life including your sex life. A recent study found that most people with back pain have a significant decrease in sexual activity because it triggers or exacerbates pain. Additionally, chronic pain is also associated with depression and moodiness, which can interfere with your sex life.
That said, there is no type of chronic back pain that rules out sex. Further, sexuality is an important part of healthy relationships. Chronic pain can put substantial stress on relationships, and a deteriorating sex life can further exacerbate those stressors. As a result, it’s a good idea to be proactive about maintaining a healthy sex life even if you suffer from chronic pain or chronic lower back pain.
One of the most important things to remember when it comes to pain and sex is to communicate, both with your partner and with your physician. Many are uncomfortable talking to their doctor about pain during intercourse, yet doing so is important as your provider can help to suggest ways to minimize pain when having sex. Additionally, it’s important to communicate with your partner that you’re having pain and to share any pain-related concerns you have.
In addition to communicating, it can help to plan ahead. Taking a pain reliever, having a massage, or applying a pain cream can all help to reduce pain. For some, a hot shower or bath beforehand can help to soothe muscles and alleviate pain. Additionally, doing physical therapy – especially with an expert in spinal mechanics – can give you exercises that will help to make sex less painful. Finally, trying different positions can help to alleviate pain. In fact, there are a number of helpful resources that provide suggestions of positions based on the type of back pain that you have.
It’s important to remember that some mild discomfort is okay, but you should stop any activity that leads to extreme back pain. Further, you should stop if sharp pain comes on during sex.
It’s also a good idea to be proactive about taking care of your back after sex. Things like over-the-counter pain relievers, heat and ice therapy, an epsom salt bath, and a massage for back pain can all help to reduce the pain that you experience as a result of sex.
Perhaps most importantly, remember that chronic pain does not have to ruin your sex life. Instead, be proactive and talk to your doctor about ways to reduce pain during sex.
